I could wax on about this …

It’s been a rather stressful week all in all with unpacking, although somehow I think I am slowly but surely edging closer and closer to where I want to be. The bad news with the house is, I may have been had and there is an awful lot of work to do. But one room at the time I suppose and trying not to let myself get overwhelmed. It’s hard stopping myself from doing so.

But time shall tell. Still this made me almost forget that I had a blog to write. Rather not forget I had a blog to write, but forget that I needed a topic. So no research and nothing planned meant that anything was up for grabs.

Talking with Miss Mermaid, she mentioned wax play and how she enjoyed the visual stunning elements of it.. I went on fetlife to find some pretty pictures for her. Her enthusiasm was infectious and so I decided to roll with the topic. I do not think I have written much at all about wax play before. Mostly because it is something I have yet to engage in. May be one day.

So a quick introduction. What is wax play is a form of play where the submissive gets warm or hot wax poured over their naked body. Wax play is generally considered to be rather sensual in nature, but wax can be used with over a wide scale of intensity.

In this blog I will answer twenty questions regading wax play and what I think of them, how I see the issues surrounding wax play and end of with some safety information. All in all a well rounded introduction and for those interested in more, there are more then enough resources out there:
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20 bound questions meme…

I tried to write, but at the moment I am just having too many things going on. Of course I am still in the middle of the house move, which is taking me considerably more time then I was hoping for, not in the least place because I see things wrong with the house that need my attention to fixing. But in time I shall get there and I try keeping in mind that the foundations of the house are good and the rest may be cosmetics that I will get to there with time and patience. Now, if only I could believe what I tell myself as well.

My given choice for today was actually going to be some kind of BDSM meme, but , but from all the BDSM memes that I was looking at, it seemed one by one I have dome them all I have this afternoon started at least writing two only to discover by the fifth question that indeed I had done these all. So back I went for more inspiration.

I think with the amount of writing that I do, that I have so far done every single meme that I could think of. Sure, I am sure that some of them I could have done a lot more in depth (I am thinking such as the “thirty days of kink/bdsm”, and the “kinky alphabet series”. But since I am also having the made-up rule that I am supposed to write a decent amount of text (around fourteen to sixteen hundred words on average), sometimes it is easier to compact things rather then trying to write less then I want.

So, no memes to find; what is next?
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Spanking Meme, Part II

Well a quick blog written on the Friday before the weekend. At least I managed to get it done. It may not be as long as you all hoped for, or perhaps are accustomed to but such is life at the moment. Things are moving slowly along but creeping up on me at the same time.

Tonight (it being Friday evening/Saturday morning) is probably the only moment I have free left to quickly sit down and write a blog and get that posted. From tomorrow morning it’s all hands to the pumps finishing up the important rooms of the house, the bedroom and the office and packing up stuff. I feel I am running out of time, energy and steam.

So this week we shall see the second part of the spanking meme. Maybe during the next week I shall see if I can find a bondage meme or something. They do almost write themselves and while, yes, I know in a way it is cheating, my standing orders are to blog and not exactly to blog about what. I promise that once I have moved back in and settled I shall return to other subjects a well.

For now, it’s keeping it light and fluffy in the face of a lot of stress and adversity. But I shall get there. So let’s see what questions there are..

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Spanking meme, part I

Hello my dear readers, well there is good news and not so good news, although the later is much part of the former. Most of the regular readers are aware that I have been waiting for my house sale to be completed. It finally happened. I am now the proud owner of a house. It needs some work/love and attention but I’ll get there. I will need to remember that I should take it one day at the time and one room at the time.

So that is the good news. The not so good news is that over the next couple of weeks, I will be severely busy with decorating, stripping, moving, sorting and all the general little jobs that come with things like that. This may mean that something will need to give. In some way or another. One of these things may be blogging for the next couple of weeks. I hope not. I will try not.

Mistress has given me permission to forgo blogging for a short little period if real life proves to be too hectic. Which may mean that for the sake of my sanity (oi! no laughing from the peanut gallery. Bloody peasants), that the next two weeks blogging will be either non existent (but I will let you know at the time. I think however, that it is safe to say that there won’t be any deep blogs and that those that I do manage to post will probably be rather on the shorter side. Except a lot of random waffling, ranting, perhaps some raving and the occasional utterance, maybe a meme or two. After all memes practically write themselves. Time shall tell.

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A week later, what a difference can a week make. By the whiskers of Bastet, it’s been a week of great ups and down and I do want to blog about it a little bit. But first the good news. Finally my house sale has come through! After a good ten plus week, the contracts have finally been exchanged. This means that basically we have now legally committed to the house buying. Getting out of this, would mean incurring heavy financial penalties. Next week, is the completion date, which means I get the keys as well and then, I finally have a house.

I can’t wait, I am looking forward to starting this new adventure. It really feels different from moving to another rental. This time it will be mine and I can do what I want. If I want drill holes in the wall, or grow catnip all over the house, I can. Not saying that is what I am going to do, but the freedom to do that is there. That in and by itself is a liberating thought.

Secondly, this week, there was the question of the Scottish referendum. It seems that much of the last week I have been talking and typing about this. While I realise that I have little to say except my own opinion and the fact that I am not Scottish and thus had literally no say in it what so ever, I was hoping that Scotland would actually vote against Independence. Despite what everyone say about the huge oil reserves that Scotland may (or may not) have and thus would automatically be come wealthy, I was not sure about that fact.

Combine this with several facts that were stated (remaining the use of the Pound Sterling, automatic entrance to the European Union) that were under no circumstances true at all, I think that the future of Scotland would have looked very bleak from the start, with not a huge amount of hope to balance it out in the next decade.

Luckily I think, although I can understand that a good forty-five percent of the Scottish population does not feel that way, the vote was cast in favour of staying within the United Kingdom. I hope that everyone can put this behind them and accept that this is what the majority of the people wanted. A democratic result. Now we need all to look at the future and work together to make things happen.

That is, what I shall do. So I shall now carry on with the part of my blog that the title hinted at:
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To be punished…

Another week gone and I am not closer to moving in real life then I was a week ago and it is starting to frustrate me to the extreme. I hate sitting around empty shelves, all my books in boxes, and shelves staring at me blank and empty. Hopefully sooner than later this will actually happen. All I can do is try not to let it influence me to much.

Otherwise this week has been pretty quiet all in all together. Highlights of course was the time I got to spend with Mistress and doing a little bit more shopping. Oh and spend lying tied up on the bed. What can I say, I am happy and spoilt girl.

I also have discovered the fun side of gaming again this week, and have been playing a lot. Mostly because I have discovered Steam (okay, yes I am a bit slow) and have had some good times playing games with others. It made me be a little bit less in Second Life then I am usually have been.

Of course, I will never forget that my tasks in Second Life takes precedence over the rest and I always make sure I do them before switching over to windows to play games. I can’t wait until more games are being released under Linux and game companies will see it as a viable source of development. We can only hope.

But this blog tonight is not about my trial and tribulations (yes, such a heavy life I lead). This  blog is, as I mentioned last week, about punishment. A topic I have written more then once about.

To re-cap: last week I wrote about testing of a dominant, and also of any partner in a relationship. In the introduction of that blog I mention that people would test dominants to get them to punish them. As I much highlighted in my previous blog, I am against the notion of people using punishment as a way to get attention, I am even more against the idea of pushing a dominant to the point that they feel that punishment is what you get.

I think however, we should not rush ahead of ourselves and start at the beginning. I promise I will return to that part of the blog a bit later on.
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Testing in a relationship

When I signed in to wordpress this evening, it showed me I had new notifications. Having not looked during the week, but rather relied on the emails to see what people were interacting with my blog.

To my surprise the top message was this: “You registered on WordPress.com 7 years ago! Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!” Wow, seven yeas onwards from my first “Hello World” post .. how time has flown.

So one of the things I heard this week in an group chat that the fun of being a submissive was to test a dominant and get punished. This is something, at least that kind of statement that I have come across several times. It is interesting to see how much my blog has changed in some ways.

What started out as a general blog about what I got up to in Second Life, my adventures and thoughts, turned initially towards the deeper darker side of BDSM play, at least as far as Second Life concerns in the form of banishment and isolation play.

This later on, made a one eighty degree turn towards more fashion related items, but never as some of the more popular blogs out there. Just shots of what I have enjoyed wearing and had bought. A period that was most notably featured by long periods of absence and silence on my blog.

Sure, I did publish some stories in that time, but mostly my blogging was stagnating. Until, well until February 2012, where after I shared with my Mistress that I wished I could write better. She admitted that she missed reading my blog and thus the order came down from above that I was to write weekly and so I have done pretty much since then. A long time, where I only have missed a few entries here and there. So, I am quite happy about that.

As for this weeks topic…
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