Good evening folks. It is of course, Saturday night and that means writing. Today’s topic will be a myriad (or is it a plethora)of questions that I came across. I have a received a few helpful suggestions of writing topics that I can explore at some later point.

Including in these topics is the difference between dominants that rely heavily on protocol (something I tend to gravitate towards heavily) and dominants that prefer a more relaxed but sensual approach to their craft. Thank you Miss Carley Noonan for suggesting this topic! Another topic that I have decided that needed some attention was the topic on apologies. Sorry sometimes seems to be hardest word, as the lyrics go, but there are plenty of occasions where the word is muttered to easy. I want to look at what constitute a good apology and how you can go about formulating and making it meaningful.

In other exiting news, I have reached my 8th rez day in Second Life. For those not aware of the term; a rez-day, much like a cake-day (as used by sites like reddit and imgur) is the day that you signed up for the online world of Second Life. Basically your digital birthday. So this means I have spend the last eight years in a digital world and made some wonderful friends, met my beloved and wonderful owner and Mistress.

So many things have changed on a platform such as this. From the invention of RLV, the bondage scene and toys that come with it, to mesh; from clothing to body parts. It makes you wonder when a platform such as Second Life would rival graphics to a level that we would expect of modern games. Imagine the graphics of a setting such as the last instalment of Assassin’s Creed (but without the horrible texture bugs, hah!). I am curious to see where the world is going to and what kind of developments we will see over the coming years and to what extend the world and its supporting platform can be pushed.

When I was doing some quick research this evening to find something to write about, I came across the following question. “When you hesitate to write something, what reminder can you give yourself to be as completely honest as you can, both factually and emotionally?”

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The things I noticed this week

Good evening my wonderful and dear readers. Another week, another Saturday has cometh and we are edging closer to the end of this year with Christmas not far off. I think this year, at least for me, will be a quiet Christmas, but I am actually perfectly fine with that. With all the palaver around the move, quiet time for enjoyment and contemplation is just what I need.

As for this weeks blog, surprise surprise, not a meme, or a questionnaire. For tonight, I wanted to make a start at least with writing about BDSM, a return to one of the core topics on my blog. However in staying true to the way my mind works, I am going to be slightly all over the place.

As you know I usually take my inspiration from various sources that I have come across during the week. However, this week; I have come across five little titbits that I think deserve some attention, each in their own right. The sources are both from fetlife, and some of the attitudes I came across in the virtual world of Second Life,

In a way sadly, there is little coherency between the different topics, so that may make the blog seem a little bit like it is jumping all over the place. But such is life I fear, especially my life. Take from that what you will. But onwards with the main part of the blog:
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Second Life Friends List Meme

Best laid plans, roads covered with best intentions. That seems to be my life as of late. Yes, I suppose I am feeling a little bit sorry for myself in many ways. It annoys me to know end that my energy levels are so very low and that I seem to be both missing and lacking the motivation to write and the drive to delve deeper into BDSM topics.

In essence the last few months, or rather ever since I moved house and still trying to fix things and get things squared away and sorted (why on earth do I have so much stuff!!). Just remember if you wonder why on earth I am still writing about this, think just for a moment if you will how much it irks me having to see all this in real life. :) So perhaps a little bit of sympathy? Please?

On the plus side, I am making, tiny bits of progress. I am hoping to have most of the boxes squared away in some fashion by the time Christmas rolls around. I shall have people over to stay about prior to Christmas and after. Hopefully even some over New Year, which means I should at least be able to offer them a bed.

For those of my readers in the states, I do hope that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving and then you enjoyed your time, hopefully with family and/or loved ones. It’s something that does not happen here at this side of the `pond’, although we do have the odd habbit creeping in such as “Black Friday“. I am not entirely sure if I approve of that, perhaps I shall dedicate my thoughts on that another time. Now is perhaps not the time.

It is however time for the main part of my blog! As I said, not having much inspiration and drive, forces me to look for the more light hearted content that allows me to fulfil my obligation to write. Yes, sometimes it does feel like an obligation, but on the other hand, now I am pounding away on my keyboard, listening to classical music (I always write better to classical music then say songs), I feel a certain satisfaction I am guessing. The fact that I find things to talk about, and if nothing else to write about; which gives you all a little window into my existence, drives me onwards. It’s strange how often the first five hundred words are always the hardest: Once that is done the rest often flows..

But onwards, let’s talk about Second Life Friends!

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Good evening my dear readers. So tonight I had a much dunked ego and slightly less damaged lip. Apparently I am not grown up enough to eat pizza without any kind of help. I managed to burn the side of my mouth and lip with some piping hot salami/peperoni oil. Ouch!

Other then that it has been a little bit of a quiet week, although I am making some progress (finally!) with unpacking my house. While I will not bore you very much with all the particular details, I finally got some energy to spare to direct to finding places for stuff to go. It’s a long way to go but I made good progress and hopefully by Christmas  ninety percent of the things will be stored away!

While I was going to do some more serious writing above combination and a general feeling of being sore and tired/weary/worn-out means I had to look for other solutions. Luckily the solution for this game in the form of Tyra Love who posted a blog about her favourite and least favourite things. I met Tyra ages ago at the Cellar where she was doing some research for one of her blog posts on gags. Thus, this seemed like a good idea and some nice light subject to get my writing in, without sending my brain immediately into a huge meltdown and grey puddly mess.

A word of the “warning”; the information in this blog tonight, pertains mostly to the virtual world of Second Life. But let’s get started and see what my most favourite restraints are ;)

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Since, I am likely to be gone all or a larger portion of the Saturday with an ungoldly early start (seriously, what’s up with people doing stuff before noon?) I decided to be smart and write ahead of schedule.

Yes, there is a good chance I would be able to write this on Saturday evening. However I am still somewhat suffering from the cold, nor know what time I will be home. Add to this, that I have little idea yet what time I will be home, there is really no telling how tired I really may be. There is always the good chance that I am just too tired to do anything and after a hot bath, I’d rather just slump and sleep. Obviously with regards to writing that is not a risk I dare to take.

So far this week has been pretty uneventful. The cold put a whole damper on ones social life. But such are things. Second Life at the moment seems to be equally void of happenings, although I do frequent my old haunts on a regular basis. I think it’s a clear sign we are heading into the festive season and things are winding down.

In the department of some more positive news, having spent some time in my usual places in Second Life, it does mean I have gained several ideas for new blog posts but they need to ripen a little bit in my brain prior before putting them to paper. So for the moment, I fear you have to be satisfied with 15 various questions that I plucked of the source of all human knowledge, aka the Internet.

Interesting enough, the questions seems to have split themselves in to roughly three categories, owner related, service related and personal. So we shall see what the answers will bring us. For those however wondering; No, when choosing questions I have generally an idea if I want or can answer them but I don’t write the answer out until I well and truly sit down to write it. So sometimes, when the questions give me pause to think, the answer may even surprise myself.

So, with that said; let’s have a look at this weeks question round:

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Promting for questions

Well I have seem to survived this week and even though I feel still tired and I do not feel entirely that despaired as I was feeling last week around. Which, all in all considered is a good thing. However, just to top it off, I think I may have caught a cold. I think running to a bus with my hair not one hundred percent dried may have started a cold. Either that or it is just the time of the year that this happens.

Does not help at all that this evening the Festival of Remembrance was on television. While Remembrance Day itself in the UK remains on the eleventh November, Remembrance Sunday and the Festival is pretty much depending whether it is the weekend before or after, depending which Sunday is the nearest.

Tonight was the Festival and the sad news was announced that Garrison Sergeant Major “Billy” Mott, was thinking of retiring from his position. While I have nothing more then respect for him, I think he will be sorely missed from the parades and his billowing voice. I am sure that he will train his successor to the highest possible standard that we have seen him perform at all these years.

So, all these things have as usual left me rather emotional. I can not help it, it is something that has been instilled from me from a young age (the respect for our armed forces, not being an emotional blubbering wreck, thank you very much.

Anyway, let’s head onwards with the main part of my blog. Since I wanted to write a bit more with sense then last time around; I decided for tonight to take ten questions from my favourite website: submissive prompts and answer them here:

Let’s go and look what random questions they have come up with:
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A bit sorry for myself …

I am going to warn you, straight up and simple. This is not going to be a happy blog, this is not going to be a blog about BDSM either. This is a blog where I possibly waffle a whole lot to get it off my chest.

If one thing would permeate my days at the moment, it is the constant feeling that I am tired. Not just tired because of lack of sleep because for the first time in a long time, I am actually heading of to bed well before my curfew. Yes I am early in bed (well early for me anyway).

While Mistress cheerily tries to convince me that change is a wonderful thing to have happen to me and that there are many opportunities … while I agree with that to some extent (okay, rather I can see where she is coming from); the fact that the house needs a lot of work, combined with the fact that I have still so much to unpack and missing all the stuff around me, makes that my energy is seeping faster away then sleep and relaxation can replenish.

At the same time, I feel incredible ungrateful. I have my own, my first own house and while it needs work, I am pretty sure I am not moving away any time soon. So I have time to make things work for me and save up and get it all sorted. Plus that kind of money is not really thrown away. I will get it back in the long run if/when I sell this house. Still, at the moment it is all rather overwhelming.

But .. right ….
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