Misbehaving for the sake of the relationship

As in a true fashion, I always decide I know my topic for next week and then when the time comes I have either not researched the subject in a manner I would have like, although truth to be told this more often than not translates really into, have not researched the subject at all for various reasons, one probably being that if I do not feel comfortable about the subject, I am subconsciously kicking against it and will not allow myself to do the work. It’s my own brain conspiring against me. But as they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

So, this week, there is going to be a slightly different topic, but hopefully one with a bit more consistence then last week, although no promises, as you may well know I do have occasionally the tendency to go of topic because … oh shiny stuff! Ahem, like I was saying, I shall try to keep my writing and rambling mostly consistent this evening.

Last week while I was hopping around and relaxing for a bit at one of my usual haunts, I could not help but over head a conversation that made me do a double take, since I found it so hard to believe what was being said. Luckily SL crashed at that time effectively stopping me from responding.

The premise of the whole situation was that submissives misbehave just to get punished and that they are needed to misbehave(!) because if as a dominant your slave does not misbehave you run the risk of your skills becoming rusty and your attitude becoming lazy.

Take your time to process that information for a moment…

And the kinks of this week are ….

Well first of all thanks to me reading way to much r/bdsm and related sub-reddits; I have some topics and some are from that dark corner of my psyche. So be afraid. No just kidding, although some of my topics are perhaps controversial and not as much discussed i terms of bdsm.  But this is me we are talking about and normal is defiantly a term we should not apply here, please check and leave your sanity at the door.

One of the topics I wanted to write about, as I saw on various sites; is that the kink of the week is collars. However I already wrote in lengthy details about collaring just last month, so I am not going to touch that subject here.

So I am a bit struggling here for topics, so perhaps I mostly wing it freestyle tonight and if you are looking for something meaningful perhaps move on to next week and hopefully I can write something better than today:

A mixed bag of topics

Tonight I have a mixed bag of topics. Some of them are suggested, directly or indirectly, by friends. I must admit that I am not above asking people for ideas. But I always ask, I have never threatened anyone with bodily harm to provide a topic. Well, not that they would be willing to testify anyway.

I have been admittedly feeling rather relaxed over the last week, absolutely helped by more than gorgeous weather and enjoyed reading some of my favourite writing and writers blog and tweets. One of the the blogs wrote something that I have been thinking about. That as a writer you just need to sit down and write. No excuses, just you, the words and whatever the medium you write on. And I think it made an impact on me, that I tend to feel at times not in the mood to write and let that mood drag me along until the moment that I can not delay it further and the fear of missing a deadline or two, in this case not blogging and being too late to bed, overcomes my inertia.

Tonight while I am not overly early in writing, which is due to the fact that I just work better against deadlines (one of the many reason I would probably not make it as a professional writer) but I am feeling not overly stressed. I have my topics, so all I need to sit down and explore each of them a little bit better.

So; are you sitting comfortably? Good, let us get started:

On the use of language

Another week has gone by and it’s time for me to face up to the reality of writing. I have some topics left from what I was going to write about next week and I probably weave them into the narrative as we say.

This week has been a lot more positive than the prior. Probably in no small way helped by the fact that finally(!) we got some decent weather. Seems spring has arrived and while the evening chill has been still overly present, the days are nice enough to dress lightly and sit in the last rays of the day, savouring an nice glass of wine or two, we got to celebrate this and since research has shown that wine lessens the chances of arthritis, better save than sorry. Bring on the summer I say.

The bad side of how my mind works. There is, I think no surprise to be found among the people who know me well, that at the best of times, my mind is rather weird and I am apt to come out with silly things sometimes. But i digress I was joking with my wonderful friend Mara about writing about the “bonds” market she totally ruined the joke for me, but that’s okay, I kind of do like it at the same time that she got where my mind was going. But since then I wanted to type the following sentence: “In the Bond market, Pierce Brosman is at an all time high”. This is from the very amusing Three Dead Trolls in a Baggie sketch named “Paul Financials report”.

Speaking of things on my mind. One of the things that has occupied mine recently is the nature of our language. How we write it and how we use it. So I decided to write about it this week and explore my thoughts and feelings on this subject…

Meme: Why do I blog?

So tonight I am not entirely in the mental frame of mine to do actually much. I am not going in details but rest assured it is one of those up and down things that eventually I will wrangle myself out of and move onwards from. Such is I fear life and with out the lower parts we would never be able to recognise what is truly wonderful in our life and what we can be grateful for and enjoy.

However there is still something in me that urges me to sit down and write. So tonight I was going to have a rather a mixed bag of topics. But having a bit of trouble getting going I started writing up the answer to the meme I found on plurk by Berry and an hour later I looked at my word counter and saw that I had written nearly a good fifteen hundred words, which I was rather amazed by. Normally my speed is roughly need about half that. For which I totally blame (okay and I am very grateful as well ) Strawberry Singh. *nods*

So I decided there and then that I was going to make this meme my blog-post for the evening and I am leaving the topics and questions for another night. So tonight you get the answer to fourteen questions about me and why I blog:

On Collar and Collaring

Collaring and collars in general are, or at least in my opinion, one of the most visual representations of BDSM. I was going to say that it is perhaps one of the most recognisable aspects of BDSM, but as we later shall see, there are collars out there, that if you did not know the person wearing it, you would not be any the wiser.

Tonight post is because, yay(!), I have my first question on someone who wants to know more. So a huge shout out to Jo Roberts. She asked, since she was new to the scene in general if I could please tell more (although I think her words were “everything”) about collars and collaring. And of course I can. I’ll try to put there as much information as I can. The problem there is so much information surrounding this subject that it is almost too much to write about it one blog post. Some of the collaring ceremonies can easily cover several pages in explaining.

In terms of BDSM, a collar is anything that is placed around the submissive’s neck (although occasionally other body parts are used out of practical considerations). It is an outward sign that the person wearing that collar is in a relationship with another person.

There are many ways, traditions, opinions as far as collars are concerned and those are just pertaining to the matters of the mind and heart. Even for the collars there are different materials and forms, ranging from exquisite to simple jewelry, from leather, to rubber, to metal. In the following pages, I hope to get deeper into all of the above.

Story: The Spanking

Tonight I want to try doing something a little bit different, by writing a slightly different story in a slightly different style. I am not going elaborate where I got my inspiration from. Suffice to say that this will be in the realm of rather short story, but one I hope you all enjoy none the less.

One of the things that always amazed or amused me, much depending on your point of view, is that I have no trouble talking to people and explaining things in enormous lines of text as I do daily on IRC and in Second Life. However; sometimes sitting down and just writing a good thousand words for a blog post, I have the knack to clamp up at the best of times.

And this is strange because to an extend I enjoy writing, maybe it is the (emotional, mental?) masochist in me that wants to drag me through this. As you probably all noted my blog last week was not all that impressive, due to an fair amount lack of inspiration. Add to the above, that I am really someone who needs a deadline to write and you will start to see my problem. Sitting down on Monday and start writing ahead of time is not something that is usually in my system. Now imagine thus that inspiration strikes at the oddest of hours, although I will say that having a phone with an notepad next to my bed does help wonders with that.

So without much further ado, I am going to give you my next story to read. Like I said, it is a short story that has been playing around my head for a while. It was a bit of a  hassle writing it, as it is somewhat different from my usual style of writing (I think). Regardless of it,  I really do hope you like it, please any comments, constructive and otherwise are very welcome. Enjoy!!