Gazing into my navel

The weekend by, partially because a very busy and hectic real life and a reasonably occupied weekend actually has not seen me get much chance to do any writing. Plus there was something that I wanted or needed to watch. Well strongly wanted at least.

The problem is that this left me with very little time to actually do any writing whatsoever this weekend. This is pretty shamelessly bad of me. I thought I was off to a good start last week but it seems I have had a momentarily relapse. But I am sitting down to write now and while I may not have enough time left in the day to do my writing. I still have my stuff to get ready for tomorrow.

Still any writing I will get done today, will safe me having to do tomorrow. Which at the rate I am going this will be the larger chunk of writing this. But, I think as the saying goes, such is life. I still am committed to blogging. The schedule may be a bit off at times but I am planning to keep writing as much as I possibly can. The only difference I may make this year is over Christmas.

First a little bit of an update on my personal life as much as it is shareable. I have noticed a slow shift in myself moving away or perhaps moving a little bit onward. Thoughts that begin to bubble to the service. There have been a few times this week where on purpose I have not worn my collar. For the first time in over 6 years.  Time will, hopefully make it easier. I still do go back to wearing it. There is a certain familiarity and comfort in feeling it around my neck. I know that some of you think I am probably less then sane, but this is my way of dealing with it.

Baby steps. That is it…

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These are a few of my favourite things…

Good evening my dear readers. So tonight I had a much dunked ego and slightly less damaged lip. Apparently I am not grown up enough to eat pizza without any kind of help. I managed to burn the side of my mouth and lip with some piping hot salami/peperoni oil. Ouch!

Other then that it has been a little bit of a quiet week, although I am making some progress (finally!) with unpacking my house. While I will not bore you very much with all the particular details, I finally got some energy to spare to direct to finding places for stuff to go. It’s a long way to go but I made good progress and hopefully by Christmas  ninety percent of the things will be stored away!

While I was going to do some more serious writing above combination and a general feeling of being sore and tired/weary/worn-out means I had to look for other solutions. Luckily the solution for this game in the form of Tyra Love who posted a blog about her favourite and least favourite things. I met Tyra ages ago at the Cellar where she was doing some research for one of her blog posts on gags. Thus, this seemed like a good idea and some nice light subject to get my writing in, without sending my brain immediately into a huge meltdown and grey puddly mess.

A word of the “warning”; the information in this blog tonight, pertains mostly to the virtual world of Second Life. But let’s get started and see what my most favourite restraints are 😉

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About rules applied

Right then. Let’s get this blog on the road. I was planning to actually write pretty much ahead of time. And with that I meant write it Thursday or Friday. The weekend ahead (and by time of this writing) is promising and thus shaping up to be quite a busy one. And of course a thousand and one other things meant as per usual the road that is so full of good intentions quickly became proverbially paved.

So after  thinking about what I wanted to write I only came up with two subjects. Neither of them kink related. And since most people state side have not seen the new Doctor Who, despite mentioning it last week I am not going to talk about it because of spoilers.

And thus a new topic was needed. And since free-styling it, with the dropping of the doctor is a bit out of the question, I had the choice about writing my latest game, Assassin’s Creed IV, not entirely sure everyone is ready and wanting to hear that. And just general waffling a couple of pages all together.

I felt that would not do, so sat down and thought about a topic. And then while browsing submissive prompts, it came to me. I wanted to write about rules and regulations within a D/s relationship. Most people are aware that I already have written about this a couple of times prior.

For tonight, I wanted to try and alter my angle on it slightly and write more from my own point of view. So let’s have a start and see where we can get to:

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Random Rambling thoughts

Today’s blog might be just a rambling sense of quite probable disjointed subjects at best loosely connected through vicarious ramblings from my poor mind. The reason for this is that this has been a heavy week and I am not currently all that brilliant, although a couple of days rest when I return to my home by Sunday will more then likely see me right.

But write I must so write I shall. On the topic of last week, I think after having written it, I found a new definition of panic. Realising that; when you schedule a post to be published, realising that on the night itself the blog has not posted and being stuck with Internet that is slower than a lame AOP postal pigeon ith a wing-twitch that is on strike and a tea break. It meant a last minute dash and scramble in the middle of the night to make sure the post got eventually pushed out. I made it but not without, shall we say, an exercise in speaking French like a person involved in the maritime profession.

On a more interesting note, while trying to get my blog posted I got an email from the powers that be, in this case wordpress, to congratulate me on the fact that I have been blogging for six years now. And how time flies. And while I know that for a majority of that time my blog has been inactive with only a sporadic update here and then, loyal followers know for the last year and a half, I have been faithfully writing pretty much every week.

So in a way that is a celebratory event of course. And that ties in with my next bit. It’s only a week to go before Mistress and I will have been together for four years. Well, we have been together for longer, but since humans (and nekos alike) have a ingrained desire to make anniversaries something that is fixed I am taking the date of her collaring me as our anniversary date. And four years, especially in a world such as Second Life is a long time. As she pointed out, I have been hers for over the half of my second life. yay! But without a shadow of a doubt it will be something I shall write more next week about.

In other news …

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Bondage and Restrictions

Tonight’s blog is dealing with bondage, and by and large aimed at the virtual world of second Life. I am not going to even pretend I do not like being tied up or other exclamations of fake innocence in this regard. Yes, you all know I love to get tied up and that I revel in the feeling and loss of control.

This is however not a feeling that is solely restricted (see what I did there?) to the virtual world however. I enjoy bondage in real life just as much. And it is because of this love of bondage in both worlds that I am destined to draw parallels between the two in terms of ability and restriction, where I can or perhaps where applicable.

Yes I am aware that there are things in one world that can not be replicated in the real world or vice versa. If only things were so simple. Who would not be able to kneel on their knees for hours at a time, be tied up in the most stringent of positions for long periods of time without being able to move a muscle and without any after effects.

Thus we can safely conclude that no two worlds are the same and that in real life we should be aware of these risks and act on our kink in a consensual knowledgeable manner. However just because things are not the same, does not mean we can apply a degree of reason and reality to our play in the virtual world, can we?

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And the kinks of this week are ….

Well first of all thanks to me reading way to much r/bdsm and related sub-reddits; I have some topics and some are from that dark corner of my psyche. So be afraid. No just kidding, although some of my topics are perhaps controversial and not as much discussed i terms of bdsm.  But this is me we are talking about and normal is defiantly a term we should not apply here, please check and leave your sanity at the door.

One of the topics I wanted to write about, as I saw on various sites; is that the kink of the week is collars. However I already wrote in lengthy details about collaring just last month, so I am not going to touch that subject here.

So I am a bit struggling here for topics, so perhaps I mostly wing it freestyle tonight and if you are looking for something meaningful perhaps move on to next week and hopefully I can write something better than today:

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On Collar and Collaring

Collaring and collars in general are, or at least in my opinion, one of the most visual representations of BDSM. I was going to say that it is perhaps one of the most recognisable aspects of BDSM, but as we later shall see, there are collars out there, that if you did not know the person wearing it, you would not be any the wiser.

Tonight post is because, yay(!), I have my first question on someone who wants to know more. So a huge shout out to Jo Roberts. She asked, since she was new to the scene in general if I could please tell more (although I think her words were “everything”) about collars and collaring. And of course I can. I’ll try to put there as much information as I can. The problem there is so much information surrounding this subject that it is almost too much to write about it one blog post. Some of the collaring ceremonies can easily cover several pages in explaining.

In terms of BDSM, a collar is anything that is placed around the submissive’s neck (although occasionally other body parts are used out of practical considerations). It is an outward sign that the person wearing that collar is in a relationship with another person.

There are many ways, traditions, opinions as far as collars are concerned and those are just pertaining to the matters of the mind and heart. Even for the collars there are different materials and forms, ranging from exquisite to simple jewelry, from leather, to rubber, to metal. In the following pages, I hope to get deeper into all of the above.

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Last blog-post…

Last blog …

Off the year! Hah! No do not be afraid, I am not going to stop blogging.

I honestly do not think I would be allowed. Admittedly, I have found some joy in writing and putting my thoughts to the screen. Imagine that blogs would have to be hand written. I am sure that I would not have reached many people. My handwriting becomes quickly illegible after a sentence or two and if I would write over a thousand words, it would probably be easier to read cuneiform.

So, a whole year has passed and I thought that it would be fitting to look back over the last year about what has happened and what has passed. It’s been in many regards a rather interesting year.

First of all, and I think that is the most obvious one is that in February this year I have started blogging again and not just the occasional post, pretty much blogging on a regular basis. I think all in all I may have missed one or two weeks where I did not write, either due to a holiday or unforeseen circumstances.

In the beginning I was rather struggling with blogging, but (and I am reluctantly to admit this) the last few months I feel that I am getting better. Not just at putting my thoughts on any given subject onto paper, but also not getting all stressed out when writing does not come. My biggest downfall at the moment. I still write perhaps rather late in the week (usually the evening before), which if the block-fairy strikes, it means that the deadline looms and dooms consistently closer.

And to my own surprise, I have even started a sort of short type story, and posted 4 chapters here so far. And that has been going quite well, although I am trying to figure out how to continue the story. Of course with family visiting, the run up to Christmas, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, (Sorry, I just had to think of the movie, the King and I, starring Yul Brynner) I haven’t time to sit down and work this out in my head.

Speaking of writers and their works, this year also saw the release of `50 shades of grey’ which caused a furore in homes up and down the country and I think as much in the editorial world. Nowadays you can not walk past the bookshelves in the supermarket to find all kind of books on this subject. Some better than others, mind.

One book that did stand out for me, or rather a trilogy of books, is a series called “the original sinners“, by Tiffany Reisz, who has written three books so far which deal with BDSM themes and a very interesting story line and believable characters. I can not recommend these books enough.

This year, saw me being with my wonderful Mistress for three years(!), as she pointed out that meant that for more than the half of my second life, I have belonged to her. That was an interesting and powerful realisation. And I am looking forward to the next three years. Thank you Mistress, once again, for the wonderful years you have given me.

I also turned six, in second life years, and I now feel properly among the old timers of this world *laughs*, even though I know there are those who surpass my age with ease and have been around since the dawn of time itself.

And so much has changed over time. Especially with the introduction of mesh, allowing some wonderful things in fashion to see the light of day and in fetish-wear as well (hey this is after all *me* who is writing).

Those that stand out are *KaS* for their wonderful catsuit and corset dress, of course without a shadow of the doubt, the ever so talented (and cute) Darien Caldwell, who brought out a beautiful harness and straitjacket. And of course Marine Kelley with her new mesh ropes which are just too much fun.

On the fashion side of things, there are too many designers to keep track of that have brought out wonderful additions to my ever expanding wardrobe, to name a few; *G Field*, Maitreya, Schadenfreude and ColdLogic. I am sure I am missing 99% of all the fashion designers out there but as they say, c’est la vie.

Sadly as wonderful the world of Second Life is, it is also very transient and people and places come and go and are sadly missed by the people who frequent them. I am thinking of places in world such as Wicked Seduction and the D/s Chapter-house and its owner Minerva who sadly seem to have disappeared. Also one of my favourite fashion designers, Miko Omegamu from *Icing* seems to have gone quiet for over a year. They are, as far as I am concerned, deeply missed and I hope and pray they are well.

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Yes, so that made me a bit more sad then I thought it would. But onwards and upwards as they say. I will not say, what Churchill used to say in situations like that, even though the phrase just tickles me pink.

With the new year looming around the corner, I believe this is the traditional time to both look back and ahead and make new year resolutions. Except for the tiny little fact that I do not do them *laughs* I think if you are wanting to make a change, you should do it there and then and not wait until some date. That only puts pressure on yourself. Just do it when you are ready.

But I am looking forward to the new year, to continue and improve my knowledge of the French Language, to learn more and go out and meet people in Leicester. I also want to start getting back on my bicylce and maybe start running. I found an enamours fun app for my android called Zombie Run. I mean, what is not to like .. Zombies, game-play, check!

And of course, to bring the circle round write! While I do not dream to have any hope to write in the same league as Tiffany Reisz, I still hope to publish and finish some more stories and write blogs about various subjects.

But above all I hope to have a wonderful year both in Second Life and in reality with my family and loved ones, with my friends and those who I haven’t met yet. I am looking positively towards the future and hope for the best.

To everyone reading this blog

I wish you, from the bottom of my heart a very Happy New Year.
May all your hopes, dreams and wishes come true and it is my profound wish that wellness and peace will remain your companion throughout the coming year

With all my love,
Lexi.

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The answer to many questions

The topic for tonight’s blog is a fantastical Smörgåsbord (Do you not just adore that word, it made my keyboard groan with pleasure), of various topics and questions taken from the submissive prompt website. I have several questions that I found interesting enough to write about and will do my best to be as complete as possible.

So, let’s get started. The subjects are various. Basically I look at the list of prompts or use the sites random feature and copy down those that I like and think I could write something about. Sometimes the question do not appeal to me or I think the answer would be way to short to write about. But enough about my methodology

The questions posted for tonight:

• What benefits are there to pet play? If you engage in pet play, what sorts of behaviours are encouraged? Discouraged?
• If you had the choice to leave the SM part of your relationship behind, could you?
• Are you allowed to express your own opinion if it differs from that of your Owner?
• Is there a place for blind faith in the lifestyle? Should it be encouraged/discouraged?
• How do you get him to up the control without topping from the bottom?
• Have you had multiple types of collars in the past? If so, what kind? and what did they symbolise to you?

Please note that as always the standard disclaimer that this is my blog and that I write purely from my own experiences, thoughts and motivations. These may differ from how you live your life and how you see these issues. With that in mind, let’s explore the answers to these questions:

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Perverting the house…

So, probably next week I plan to have several pictures up from new outfits that I have bought recently. It is a bit harder since one of my favourite photo-post editing sites has gone up in flames back in April or so. Basically they got bought out by Google and Google said sorry, but no cheese for you. Why is this important? It is not really, there are plenty of tools available even on my computer who should be capable of doing the same job. Just that the site managed to pack them somewhat easier for me to comprehend.

So while I have a long list of topics to potentially write about, there was little in my list that entirely grabbed my attention. So while I thought to write a bit freestyle again, I also came to the conclusion that I haven’t wrote much about BDSM the last few weeks, well excluding my story. So perhaps I should start rambling about this topic instead. Last time I seemed to have decent results with that.

This idea was inspired partly by a friend of mine in-world who showed me a picture of a pet-store where he had a look at the various implements that were on sale. Which made me muse about how much things there are in our daily life that we can use to enhance play with. So hence the topic, perverting the house … and seeing what you already have on hand that can be used to play with…..

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