Archive for April, 2014

In the run up of writing this blog, I was quickly gathering some resources that during the course of the blog could consult if I got stuck or looking for a deeper explanation. Because while I write often as if I have at least an amount of clue about what I am taking about, in some cases, I also write to explore my own feelings and thoughts on this subject. Not all too often, I know what I am thinking but to translate those thoughts into actual words and explain them to others is a different step. And the blog helps with that.

But I am worried if I start thinking too much about that, I get way to much sidetracked about writing about writing (trust me, I just deleted a good chunk of a paragraph where I just started to explain in a greater detail then this particular blog-post warranted). Onwards and upwards as they, once more onto the blog …

As promised, this week I will talk about service oriented submission in a bit more detail. As most of you have read, last week I published a service that I was asked to write out.  I suppose in a way it could be  seen as an example as how a dominant can gain insight in how a submissives mind works.

Perhaps in some cases it can also be seen as a little bit as a one-sided roleplay, but my thoughts on this are that it serves multiple goals. It allows me to write freely how I would serve a dominant within very broad confinements. It allows a dominant to see that, to what extend and detail I would go in my service, and above al, it gives me a goal to write and work to as well a chance to please a dominant and if I am a little bit honest about myself, to show off.


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Thank you all for all the reaction I have had on my blog about manners and submissives. I think the post was missing something so rest assured that I will return to the post in question at some later point, when I have time to let it mull over in my head and get a better idea of what I want to say and maybe in a little bit of a more constructive format. Still, thank you all for the reading it and liking it.

This week I am going to depart from the previous topic and this week I want to post something about service orientated submission and I will follow that up next week with a more in-depth post and relating to this one.

It is actually Tuesday evening at the moment when I am sitting down and writing this as I am off to visit family over the Easter weekend and will not have time to write as I usually do on Saturday evening. But I will schedule this post, so it will be probably Easter Sunday by the time you all get to read this.

But onwards and upwards as they say. Today’s blog instead writing about what service oriented submission details, I am going instead to adhere to to the old maxim of “Show, don’t tell”. The follow service I was requested to write, by Domina Isabelle Helendale after several mornings of talking and playing. It was an interesting exercise both in thinking and attending as well in writing a large piece a couple of days after my regular blogging.

The brief given was as follows: “You will write me a service of you being at my vanity in my bedroom, brushing my hair and putting on my make-up, while loose chains are locked on
her wrists and ankles.

The result you can read below.


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Good evening all. Another Saturday evening and as I am accustomed to do, I am stressing once again, what to write. Not entirely this time though. I have taken, as I have mentioned in the few previous blog, to making more and better notes on what to write about. This means I am sort of having the next few blogs more or less lined up already.

Of course, as the world around us is ever changing, so do what I want to write about. Things tickle me in ways, or I discovered or perhaps is that rediscover things that make me tick in very particular ways.  I am at the moment really hoping that I get permission to publish a piece that I wrote on the bequest of a Dominant and who found the work by my hand well worthy of place. Of course, this made me entirely happy. If I get permission to publish this, you’ll see this appear as my Easter Sunday blog, with the follow up on that piece the week after. Curious already? Check in next week!

But this weeks, this is not what I want to write about. This weeks, I want to write about what I think should be reflected in the manner of a submissive. Now of course, I know that everyone is different and that everyone has their own way of doing submission and as I have often said; “D/s is the interaction between two people and how they fill in that relationship is up to them, as long as it follows certain tenets or creeds.”

So the big caveat lector as per usual is that this is inspired by my views and by how I choose to conduct myself. You may disagree with me, you may even disagree with me and find my views unrealistic. I never said I was perfect myself and perhaps do not always follow the guidance that I so happily provide here.

Having all said that, let’s explore my thought on how I think submissives should behave at least in part, and sometimes for the right person in full…

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A week down the road and the March Blogger Q&A has officially come to an end. I thank you all for those who have participated and asked me questions, whether that was through Second Life, through e-mail, or in the comments sections. Admittedly, I am more then a little surprised that compared to other blogs, the amount of personal questions so far have been minimal, or perhaps better phrased down-right absent. But who knows in the coming years they will come.

As promised this week, I am to write about tasks and how one can successfully apply tasks into a BDSM relationship. It’s not the first time I have written about tasks (see my blogs “Setting tasks within relationships“, “More about setting tasks in d/s relationships“, and “About setting tasks“). Needless to say, it seems that tasks is both a subject that remains to fascinate people and baffle them at the same time. Perhaps baffle is the wrong word to choose here. I think more than anything that people struggle coming up with tasks that are useful for a submissive and look for information and inspiration.

Not to mention that these blogs keep scoring consistently high across the board. Although saying that. I just have had a look at my stats. Just in, the all time highest search term for my blog with a total of 2,832 hits, is actually “butts“. You people have a seriously unhealthy fascination with my butt. All I can say: stay classy Internet, well played.

It is perhaps then with no great surprise that two of the question I have received for the March Blogger Q&A dealt with tasks and thus, as promised these will be the last one that I am going to answer.


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