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Archive for April, 2012

(I do apologise if people who had subscribed to my blog have seem to get this double, half way through writing this subject, I accidently pushed on publish instead of `save as draft’)

One of my more long standing fetishes, or things that make me tick perhaps is the better chosen word here, is for me to be told what to wear. Not only just on special occasions but a general move from giving up the control about what you wear on a daily basis. To let another define your clothes, your look has always held a very powerful attraction for me.

Where this stems from I am not sure, but I know that especially the last ten years of my life this became a powerful fantasy and as often with such things, fantasy tends to at least to some extend turn into reality. So what is it that is so powerful about being told what to wear?

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For a while now I have been wanting to write about my views on how to build or maintain communities or at least some pointers on where to look. As per usual I write purely from my own perspective having deal with a few online and some real world communities. And while I most definitely don’t hold all the answers to how to build the perfect everlasting community, I hope you find enough interesting material here to give food for thought.

Building up a D/s community is not unlike really building a d/s relationship and the same sort of qualities come to the forefront; Communication, focus, honourable intent, consistency, fairness to name just a few of the qualities involved. But much more then a single entity the D/s community exists of many people, all with their own needs and wants and desires and each looking to get out of the community and to some extend to put into it.

Within the community you will find often persons in different roles such as;  teachers, councillors, players, voyeurs, the active. Each of them brings and enriches the community in their own way. But because no person is the same this makes managing a community often an act like balancing on a tightrope with an piano on one end and juggling basketballs with the other.

The interesting point I found when doing some quick research for this subject was that there seems to be really little information about how to build and maintain BDSM communities. Which is rather puzzling since there is written so much about every other subject within BDSM going. So what are some of the more crucial points? let’s explore that below in this blog post

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Hi everyone, I am back from my mini-break with family and shall continue blogging in my usual fashion soon. For now please stick with me while I write a quick blog post. Sadly real-life has somewhat conspired against me, and I am struggling to find a good topic that I can write about in a short time. Hence the following: you are stuck with this weekly blog-post being rather freestyle and me rambling on a bit about the various things that keep me busy and hopefully next week I can write more insightful musings.

With regards to my blog, I have a great question for you readers (I know you are out there, after all I do have site stats đŸ˜‰ ); what kind of thing would you like to know more about or would you like to see me write about. I know from the search terms that my blog comes up often in terms of rubberdolls, banes, isolation, dollifications and picture of my posterior (really people?) *laughs*. So if there is something you like to know more about or perhaps like me to write more in-depth about, leave me a comment and I’ll see what I can do.

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Since I was entirely short on time this week with family staying over, my two ideas for this week (Building BDSM communities, mental control), will have to be skipped for once and I have to apologise before hand if my weekly entry will not be entirely as long as the previous weeks have been.

Trying to find a subject for this week, I stumbled onto submissive journal prompts, which is part of the submissiveguide website. The journal prompts of the website describes itself as an aid for submissives to assist them to overcome mental blocks and to help them formulate their thoughts.

The submissiveguide website itself is full of interesting information, stating their intent as: “This site is dedicated to helping submissives understand themselves and the service they wish to provide; from sexual to domestic, personal assistant to pain slut and everything in between.

After looking for a suitable prompt for a nice little blog tonight I came across the following question:

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