After having been a week and a half away from home I can not even begin to tell you how good it feels. If only it was not overshadowed by having to leave again in three weeks, but such is life I fear. I shall of course endeavour to keep my writing up, but due to a long and hard week with just not enough sleep, my brain is sort of mush about what to write about.
So given that not a single decent topic comes into my head tonight, I am just going to sit here and type and see what brings it out in the end. It would not be the first time, probably not the last and sometimes the results of it all is not all that bad either.
And I think I have found the overall theme for my blog post tonight. Books. Books are awesome. As I mentioned in my previous blog post, love for reading was instilled and encouraged by my parents from an early age. Right now there are about three book shelves surrounding me and friends have remarked that my house looks half like a public library.
So tonight I want to write some about books and mostly books that have a connection to BDSM in some way or another. But I am not going to kick it off by talking about instructions book on how best to tie your partner into a wicker basket. Really of all places, I first would like to start off with a book review:
Of course the biggest enjoyment of this week away was that I finally had a chance to catch up on some reading and after finishing the Zombie Survival Guide, I started on, the very long and seriously eagerly awaited sequel of the Original Sinners Series by Tiffany Reisz. This was literally a book I could just not put down. I took a day out of my schedule, installed my pert derriere firmly on the couch at first (and later in the bedroom), and read the whole book in eight hours flat.
And what a book. It has been a while since I read a book that gripped me so much and took me on roller coaster ride after roller coaster ride. I think the only proper answer to “how do you like Tiffany Reisz as a writer” is to admit that you both adore her and loathe her. I know I do, although I really adore her prose.
I am not going to say too much about the book, since otherwise I start gushing about what happens. But all the usual suspects are there and some new ones, but everything ties in together and consistently so. (Note in case: rubber duckies). I loved the fact that the chapters are named after chess pieces, and that each piece refers to a character. And it is not the first time, chess references make it into Tiffany Reizs’ stories.
Do you need to read this book. You sure do, The book made me laugh, cry, gasp in shock and tremble to turn the pages in fear of what would be on next. Okay so I read it on a kindle, but you get the meaning. But … and there is a big but. To really appreciate the world, this book, the intensity of it all; you really should read, The Siren first, followed by the Angel, The Prince and then all of her free stories, and then head into The Mistress. But be warned. You will get addicted. I warned you.
The bad thing about this book. Now I have read it, and while I am re-reading it slowly for a second time. I now have have to wait until next year, before the next book (This one is called The Priest (and there are three more prequel books to come: The King, The White Queen, and The Red Queen). Anyway, go read the book and we’ll talk. Go on, off you go, I’ll be waiting here.
So, what other books do I want to highlight here. Well in one of the threads on /r/BDSMCommunity, I saw a question from a person new to BDSM wanting to know what books would be suitable or perhaps rather recommended to read to get a grasp of what they were dealing with.
Such an attitude always warms the cockles of my heart. There are plenty enough people who get into BDSM who have read nothing more then some erotica story featuring vampire wannabes, or seen worse on the Internet and think that is the standard way of how things should be done. Someone who takes the time to educate themselves, and study/learn about something that may be a lasting part of their life has both their feet firmly onto the ground as gets off well prepared. (Sorry bad pun, totally unintended)
So which books would I recommend that people read. I think I would start off by recommending the big three: “Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns“, “SM 101, A Realistic introduction” and for the dominants among us “The Loving Dominant“, even if you turn out to be a through and through sadist. For those interested in polyamory, “The Ethical Slut” seems to be a good choice, although I have some problems with the book myself.
The first two books are a good introduction and I started out by reading ‘Screw the Roses’ which is wonderfully written with a lot of humour and a serious undertone. This book will start to give you a decent basis, with plenty of safety tips before delving deeper into relationships and how to find a potential kink partner. While the book is written from the traditional point of view of a male dominant/female submissive relationship.
The second book, as I mentioned SM101, is written by Jay Wiseman, a man of long standing and equal reputation within the BDSM Scene, who has long been active (and on double checking my sources, still is active. SM 101, includes many of the topics obviously covered in other books, but also covers the basics of bondage, humiliation, munch organising, history and his description of the mind fuck is almost worth the book alone.
As for the third book, is aimed more at dominants and offers tips, practical solutions and even an introduction at making your own toys. Well required reading for any dominant.
The last book that I mentioned, is for those interested in polyamory and while not directly dealing with the subject of BDSM it is an reasonably interesting read. The biggest problem I have with the book is that it is rather preachy in places and suggesting that polyamory is the be-all and end-all to any kind of relationship problems is a bit grating. Also the fact that their pseudo-science hardly offers any solution at all but rather presents that “conflicts” will be overcome eventually strikes me as rather odd.
However in today’s world, there is always the Internet and thus a wealth of information can be found here. However, as a word of warning, there is always a wealth of misinformation to be found to. Always double check what you read and use your common sense. People in newsgroups on use net, discussions forums, chat-rooms, reddit will always answer your question as long as you show them you have thought about it. Nobody is going to answer questions such as “
Should I chop of my partners head with a spade in our farm related roleplay”
While taking a break from writing and browsing on Imgur (procrastination is everything), I came across this gallery, and I can do nothing but just agree and I think that perfectly highlight my love of reading and yes, I pretty much get them all.
My name is lexi and I am a booknerd. (among others)
Take care, and enjoy your reading,