Well, nothing changes the mind as much as a week onwards after my last blog-post. Yes I still plan to eventually do a fashion post of some sorts, but after talking with someone I decided to change tack (see what I did there?), and write about another one of my likes. But hey being a girl and a kitten, I am not if allowed (or entitled *cough*) to change my mind on certain things. Well, come to think of it, I am allowed to change my mind on all things, just as long as I am willing to accept the consequences but I am not going there and that is perhaps a topic for another blog-post some time down the line.
And as per usual I digress. As I was saying, I decided to blog about one of my likes, and that like was pet-play. So what is pet-play in short? Pet-play, also sometimes called animal roleplay, is as the name already infers a form of roleplay where one of the participants assumes the role in greater or larger parts of an animal of their choice including mannerisms and behaviour. The main theme of pet-play is usually the voluntary transformation of a human being to animal status, and focus on the altered mind-space created.
The most common themes in pet-play are puppy-play, kitten-play and of course pony-play. But other variants such as cows and pigs are not entirely uncommon. However in the latter case there seems to be a larger element of humiliation present in the play then on average.
So let us explore, or rather sit back and listen to me talk about my views on pet-play:
As i mentioned, pet-play is assuming in greater or larger part the identity of a preferred animal. Although the biggest change is an actual mental shift in a persons way of thinking and behaving, there are items that can be worn by a person to make them settle them more in their role. I shall go deeper into this later on.
What is pet play not? Pet-play is not in any way shape or form the same thing as bestiality. While pet play may contains elements of bondage, humiliation, control, punishment and even has for some people sexual tones, it has nothing whatsoever to do with having sex with actual animals. They never have consented against this, where your submissive/soon-to-be-kitten, can and must consent to what is happening to her. I just wanted to get that out of the way.
So back to to what pet-play is and especially for a moment, what pet-play is for me. My chosen animal, which probably will not come at as surprise to anyone really, is a kitten. As I am a neko (Japanese for cat-girl), being a kitten is far ingrained into my psyche. However that does not mean that I am always in the headspace of pet-play-kitten. But I love being an actual kitty. Playful, bouncy, snuggling, or just plain silly. Anyone who has seen me being playful on catnip can attest to the latter.
There is something very liberating at not having to think about anything, but fully absorb yourself in the moment, let all worries fall by the wayside and let your owner take care of you. As a pet, or at least this is my view (as much of any article on this blog), your mindset is pretty much based on the here and now, very much in the moment kind of spirit.
But at the same times, I think there is also something really primal about being a pet. Especially for me, I have been in situations of extreme emotions, where for some reason or another (read this as: something personal I do not want to go too deeply into detail on this blog) have gone to a state of a kitten, which made the experience in some cases more intense. The primal part at which I hinted included clawing, hissing and generally feeling very connected with being an pet/animal.
Another one of the animal roleplay list that I frequently engage in is pony-play. That too, I can great joy out of. However as a pony it’s much different than a kitten. In the former case I am more focused on moving right, listening and reacting to whip signals. Especially because I can not (or perhaps in this case rather ‘will not’) speak, my communication is extremely limited to just simple signals. But that is something that the mind can adapt to and makes it even welcoming.
I personally would place pet-play as a mental type of play. Mostly because it is the mind of the submissive adapting to new circumstances. So her mind is really the biggest tool (as often is the case) at your disposal. If your actions, or in-actions, make it hard for her to settle into the mindset of a pet/animal, then it makes pet-play very difficult to do. The easier the … transition … as it were, the better for the outcome of the scene.
But please be aware; submissives engaging in animal roleplay, pet-play can loose themselves to an extend in their role. See it as a sort of stage of subspace perhaps. Thinking clearly could for them become a lot more difficult. While for them slipping into their pet role may be easy, slipping out of in and resuming normal life, may be met with reluctance and the pet needs to be coaxed and comforted back into their human role. And yes, pet-play can be that addictive. *smiles*, but that goes pretty much for any activity.
Also as the dominant partner in the relationship, if you have a pet at your disposal as it were, please note you are at that moment in time responsible for their safety. You need to look after them, feed them, even basic other necessities will be yours to look after. After all they are pets, and you need to look after them and make sure they are safe and stay out of serious trouble.
However, pet play does not need to limit itself to the enjoyable playfulness of being a pet. There are, just as with real pets, things that a pet should or could learn. Such as where they can be and where they can not. As such, a pet could be learned to be disciplined, like being swatted with a rolled up newspaper or a hand, up to and including some confinement in a cage for being a bad pet. As i mentioned pony-play earlier, which is a form of pet-play that can involve a lot of training, from cart-pulling, to dressage etc.
As I promised, I would talk a bit about the tools of the trade that can make it easier for a pet to change from one role to their animal role. The easiest would be a specific collar and leash. Making the pet wear that collar and leash would be the signal that it is okay for them to slip into their ‘pet-space’ as it were.
But there are many other tools, some born out of necessity, other because they are plain good fun to have. For example for kitten play, there are cute kitten ears that your pet can wear for examples, and tails; either clipons, or once made that have a slightly more, pressing and penetrative persuasion.
Of course there are also other things to think of, such as speech restrictions, bondage to restrain movement; making it impossible for a submissive to stand up, or use their hands and feet are just a few of the examples here. But the limit is only determined by your own imaginations. There are examples of puppy-play that involve small gets up from just a muzzle to a full rubber-puppy including catsuits and various kind of bondage to restrain them.
Then there is the more practical aspects of pet play, such as the need to feed them and have them intake water. Because they are pets, nothing short of a good bowl will do. I would recommend a shallower but sturdy bowl. But as mentioned in last weeks blog, your local pet-store should be rather well equipped for this purpose. And of course toys for the pet to play with, such as playing catch and tug of war for puppies, or shiny for kittens to bat at. And PLEASE, do not make us run up the wall after a laser. Stupid red dot! *grins*
One thing you do not want to do, is feed them animal food. That stuff is for animals and humans, even though playing as pets have some specific dietary needs. If you want to go the route of deep immersion; there are other tricks that can be applied in for of treats (think baked cookies), food (blended meatloaf, put in a food tin look alike for added reality). But if you are really wanting to go that route, I would suggest you do some careful research first. Also think of blankets, after all you want a place for your pet to rest, do you not? And do not worry, for us kittens, the couch is a very comfy place ;-).
It really depends on how far you want to take things with your pet and your relationship. Just be careful and think how practical things are and remember that at some point the submissive will leave the pet-state behind to return to her normal daily life. She will need time adapting to that process.
Hopefully the above has given you a reasonable basic idea what pet-play is about and how it is a wonderful tool both for the dominant and an enjoyment to boot for the submissive to engage in this activity if you have the interest or desire too. Above all I would say, please research the subject better before starting…
Now to our enjoyment, I found some videos (okay, favourites of mine, that include some aspects of pet (and mainly kitten-play)..
- “What’s new pussy-cat”; a beautiful, cute and adorable girl acting as a neko/kitten, with a lovely scene of her drinking milk from a bowl. She displays a lot of characteristics that I would think of thinking of what a neko/kitten would be to me; haughtiness, arrogance, enjoyment, silly, and a bit playful. The only thing missing is a pair of kitten ears. But i may have fainted then. 😉
- Urban Pet; an interesting video of girls on leashes, acting to an extend like pets, especially near the end.
- Bichinho de estimação – Woman Pet; An great video which shows some kitten play, between a male dominant and a female kitty.
Have fun, stay safe!
If you have more interest in the subject, I have some resources for you that can help you start reading more.
- Pet Play, Human pets primer
- Animal Roleplay on Wikipedia
- Kinky World: BDSM Advice series: Pet play
- The playroom: BDSM 101: puppy/pony/kitten play